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Expert Q&A
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| By Harriet S. Worobey, M.A. Early Childhood Educator Director, the Nutritional Sciences Preschool | ||
What are the developmental benefits of music, and how do I get a reluctant child to participate?

Music experiences are an integral part of the child's school day, and a part of many activities and learnings. Music can contribute to the development of each child, in accordance with his or her individual pattern or growth and development. Music offers opportunities for listening, creating, singing, rhythmic responses, creative movement and playing instruments. Young children can develop the love of music, creative expression, listening skills, auditory discrimination and physical coordination.
Oftentimes a child may not be ready to participate in group activities. That doesn't mean that he or she is not getting a great deal out of the experience. Many children who do not sing in school will go home and sing every song word perfect for their parents. Children should never be forced to participate. Music should be a joyous experience, and you certainly can't force a child to have fun! That being said, teachers certainly want to encourage participation. Don't expect the same response of all children. Give each child an opportunity to participate at his or her own level. For example, if you have music playing during your free play time, some children will listen while they are playing. Perhaps sing along to the music next to the reluctant child as he or she is playing. Provide many opportunities for singing throughout the day, not just at "music time." Having instruments available at free play may spark an interest in a child and encourage that child to use the rhythm sticks in a group later on.
When you do have group music, try to select music that allows for individual responses and creativity. The more fun and open-ended group music is, the more children will want to participate. However, do not be discouraged if one or two children each year simply do not want to get up and move or sing at the same time as the other children. hey are still getting a lot out of the experience and may be ready later as they develop.
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