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Only child syndrome?
April 17, 2007
Ash has been in the same preschool since she was 2 years old. So I was surprised when the teacher informed me that she hasn't been listening very well for a wile. After getting in the house I gave the teacher a call expecting to hear how this just started. What I found out is that this has been going on almost all year.
When I asked why this wasn't brought to my attention before, I was given the "Well, we try to let the kids be themselves, and we're aware she's an only child."
Clay and I take no offence to being asked what goes on at home, or get upset when our little angel isn't very angelic when we're out of sight. But we take issue to the "Only child" syndrome that is nothing more then an excuse fore a teacher to get out of having to deal with the problem.
We both agreed that Ash had to learn that we weren't going to have her running a muck at school. So we sat her down and explained that she is supposed to listen to her teacher at school because Mommy and Daddy gave the teacher permission to keep her safe.
Now, as for what happened to the teacher, she was informed that Clay and I want to hear no more of the only child syndrome theory wile speaking to us about our child. I'm sari, it pisses me off that people just assume that a child is misbehaving just because they have no siblings to socialize with. In this house we made a conscious decision that one child was all we wanted, and we're not about to change our minds because of this theory that only children are lonely, or spoiled because we only have to provide for the one child.
Recently, I took Ash to a birthday party and met this woman. She seemed nice until she learned that Ash was an only child. "Don't you want to try for a boy?"
And my favorite has to be "What about when you die, she'll have no family."
Now, I hope that Ashe decides to create her own family as an adult, but I don't get the logic in the theory that if you have more then one kid there all going to be the best of friends as adults. No one can predict how their children will get along, and it just feels selfish to me to have a child for the betterment of my first born.
I'll have to meditate on how to handle this. Until next time, best wishes.
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